Hello love,
Let’s focus on something that I often get asked about – why I don’t focus on weight loss, even though my clients do eventually lose weight as a result of the work we do together on their emotional eating. I know that might sound strange in a world that’s obsessed with the number on the scale.
But if you’ve been struggling with emotional eating, body image issues, restriction, dieting, you’ll want to stay tuned and listen to what’s really going on.
You need to understand what I’m going to share with you, because this changes everything.
So here’s the thing – emotional eating and weight loss have a bit of a chicken and egg dynamic. But what comes first is definitely resolving your emotional eating.
The reason I don’t focus on weight loss comes a lot from my own journey with emotional eating and body image. And i’ve seen this pattern play out time and time again with clients.
For many years, I was *really* focused on losing weight. During that time I didn’t know I was an emotional eater. I thought I was just out of control with food. I knew if I had a bad day, I would go and get cookies and then swing to the other extreme afterward depriving myself of food.
During those years I thought weight was the Holy Grail. I believed if I finally reached a certain weight, then I would be loved and accepted. Looking back some of my earliest memories about my body were tied to this idea. I remember being given medication to eat more because I “wasn’t the right size”. Then as time went on I was told I needed to lose weight.
Weight was always this constant obsession. In my mind being the right size meant I’d be loved and accepted – and finally feel confident.
I did all the things to get there. I restricted. I had disordered eating habits. I controlled food. I pushed harder. I worked with a personal trainer. I went to talk therapy.
I did all of these things to reach this “ideal” weight, because I believed that would deliver all the results that I wanted.
And even when I got to that coveted place…It was fleeting.
It felt like I built my self worth on sand. The confidence didn’t last and it didn’t heal my emotional eating.
Let’s dive in:
- 2:15 Reaching the holy grail didn’t stop my emotional eating, or give me lasting confidence
- 2:40 Why weight loss is a distraction
- 3:06 What actually shifts you internally in a sustainable way
- 4:00 How the body actually changes – and why diets mess this up
- 4:34 My own journey (slow but my clients get there faster than I did)
- 5:19 You don’t start at zero when you’ve used the quick fixes, you start from a depleted place.
- 5:50 Detaching your worth from your body – necessary but hard.
- 7:56 Free resources and next steps
Next Steps
1. If you are ready to start your journey to resolving your Emotional Eating you can download my free guide “What Are You Truly Hungry For?” to start discerning true from emotional hunger and catching your triggers HERE.
2. If you are ready to transform your emotional eating so that you can get to ease, peace and confidence around food and in your body with a step by step process and guidance then find out more about The Emotional Eating Evolution Program HERE.
To healing,
Michelle
Certified Holistic Nutritionist Specializing in Emotional Eating
