Today I wanted to share with you more about why you might be stuck and not able to sustain changes with your emotional eating, with nourishing your body and with self care.
I get it – I spent a lot of years trying different diets and forcing myself to do certain things. I thought that’s what I needed to do in order to get a handle on my emotional eating. I thought I needed to control my hunger and my body but that was a surface level solution I couldn’t maintain. There was always a part of me that seemed to sabotage me, that seemed to get in the way, that seemed to come out through me and eat all the food or binge.
This is what happens to clients.
So why is that happening?
Conventional diets and exercise are giving you a surface solution, but they’re not looking at the deeper root cause as to why you can’t sustain these changes. I’m going to share with you why you can’t move forward.
Safety doesn’t equal happiness
Part of the reason you can’t move forward is that that pattern of emotional eating has kept you safe for so many years. It has made you feel safe around your emotions. It has been a way to cope with your emotions. It has been a way to make you not feel uncomfortable or discomfort in your body. So when we learn this from such a young age and have had this pattern for 20, 30, 40, 50 plus years it stays in our system. Our brain creates a pattern and patterns are efficient and require less energy.
As we get older and notice this emotional eating pattern doesn’t work and we want to try something different. But we get pulled back into the old pattern. The reason is that when we try to do something in a new way, we’re not “safe” anymore. That’s why they say growth is outside of your comfort zone. Every time we leave our comfort zone and we try to grow, our body wants to pull us back to where we were before.
So how do we move past this?
How do we move out of this comfort zone that’s really hurting our health, our well-being, and move into this growth area where we can start creating change in our life? When we’re safe, it doesn’t mean we’re happy.
Safety does not equal happy, comfort does not equal a happy and fulfilled life where you reach for your highest potential. We need to move out of safety slowly to start sustaining those changes as we grow in order for that to become our new normal. The new normal becomes our new comfort zone, a place where we can sustain our changes.
I see this with clients and this was the same thing for me. If I look back, I see my patterns of trying, failing, trying, failing, because I didn’t know what was going on to pull me forward. I didn’t know what was going to get me through those ups and downs. And I kept falling back.
So I’m going to share with you how you can move into that area of growth.
#1 It’s possible…
It’s possible to move out of your emotional eating. I’ve done it. My clients have done it. There are thousands if not millions of people in the world that have done it. So it is a possibility for you to move past your emotional eating.
Do you feel it is possible for you?
#2 What do you desire?
What is it that you want? With my clients they want to be free of obsessing over food. They want to not feel out of control around food and use it to cope. They don’t want their emotional eating pattern to start impacting their health in terms of; weight, health concerns or conditions.
What do you desire for yourself?
#3 Transforming the sabotaging behaviour.
It’s important to understand that part of you that pulls you into the emotional eating and the self sabotaging behaviour is really trying to protect you and keep you safe. It needs to learn a better way. It needs to grow up. It needs a new perspective.
The way you can get to that new perspective and the way I get to that with my clients is that we do somatic meditations. These meditations include inner parts work. We all have different aspects and parts of us. There’s a part of you that sabotages and wants to emotionally eat and a part of you that says “no”. These are parts of you – think of them as children or people inside of you.
They have two different perspectives of the world. What we need to do is to get them talking to find a win win solution. To give them a chance to meet needs and find a new perspective in order for you to move forward. If you keep moving forward and pushing and bulldozing the part of you that’s sabotaging you, it will just grow stronger and and it will get its way. This means you will continue to emotionally eat.
We need to be gentle with all parts of ourselves, even the ones that are not necessarily getting us to where we want to go. They’re really the gatekeeper to where we want to go.
We get to the root in the somatic meditations. We do parts work and inner child work, and we go deeper into this unresolved emotional turmoil inside. We come to a resolution and then you can move forward with ease in both your body and in your action.
These 3 areas are important to help you move past your emotional eating. In my program, The Emotional Eating Evolution Program, we cover these 3 areas. There’s support and accountability to help you move forward so you stay on track. To keep moving towards your vision and know what’s possible for you.
So if this is resonating with you, then I’d love to invite you to apply to the program and book in a complimentary 30 minute call to see if the program is a fit for you to get you from where you are to what your goals are.
To moving forward,
Certified Holistic Nutritionist + Emotional Eating Expert